My friend,
This is not a world of extremes. Surely, extremes do, in fact, exist, but they are rare. Really rare. As rare as a perfect circle or a certain snowflake. As rare as you are exactly–exactly–the same.
Extremes are defined by what they aren’t. They aren’t what everything else is. In shades, black is extreme because it is [not white]. White is extreme because it is [not black].
Every other shade is some variation of gray because it has at least a little black and a little white.
In the shade spectrum, there are a single two extremes for infinite grays.
This, extrapolated, is how life is. Given something–anything–there are two extremes that provide counterexamples rest of the mass of humanity.
Think of this in sports terms, if you will–if we can agree that there exists someone, at sometime, who was the best at a given sport or event or position–then he or she or it is one extreme–or [not bad]. The other extreme, then, is the individual who was the worst–or [not good].
–And just as surely as someone–at his or her or its peak–was the best, someone must have been the worst–
Everyone else, since they weren’t [not bad] or [not good] are a shade of gray, some combination of bad and good, no matter how close he or she or it is to a given extreme.
–Or, the second best putter ever–ever–to touch a golf club is/was/will be slightly more bad than the best putter in the history of humanity, who is, by our definition [not bad]–
The reason I bring this up is because the ratio of anything to infinity is zero. Despite the fact that the world speaks in extremes–in labels and genre and hyperbole and shortcut–extremes are statistically insignificant. We speak of conservative and liberal, of smart and stupid, qualified and unqualified. We speak of amateurs and experts, of best and worst, quickest, tallest, and shortest. Of exceptional. Of insubstantial. Of gay and straight.
If, statistically, no one is any one thing, then everyone must be composites of everything. Yet, no one ever acknowledges this fact.